Friday, November 30, 2007


What do you think of when you see those initials? What most people think of, I'm sure. Not me, though. For me, those initials stand for Virtual Irish Pub.

Back in the dark ages of the internets, chat rooms were all the thing. Or so I was told. I had no idea. But I'd just recently bought a computer so I thought I'd check it out. I was (and still am) fascinated by all things Irish and somehow stumbled upon the V.I.P. (along with another one - P45). I'd never been in a chat room before, so I had nothing to compare it to - I just thought it was cool. It had a limit of about 30 people at a time, so it wasn't hard to keep up with conversations. At the time, I was infatuated with the show Ballykissangel, so my handle was Niamh (not that I liked her, I just thought it was better than Assumpta, the character I did like.)

One day, I started chatting to this guy whose handle was Aston. He told me he was from the back of beyond in Ontario. He asked where I was from and when I said Boston - I always said Boston, it was all people knew of Massachusetts - he said "Number Four, Bobby Orr!" We chatted a lot when we were both logged on. Eventually we traded email addresses and real names. But there was one thing we lied about; our ages. He told me he was 23 (he was 19). I told him I was 29 (I was 31, soon to be 32).

The emails got more and more frequent and led to phone calls. We'd talk for hours (until I got a $400 phone bill one month) and he finally asked if he could come down for a visit. I said yes and he came down for New Year's Eve, for the big 1999/2000 changeover.

And that was that. He came, he visited, we confessed that we'd lied about our ages. Then he went home, packed up all his stuff and moved here permanently at the beginning of March and he's been here ever since. We got married that June, thus rendering him That Canadian Boy I Married (TCBIM for short). It's been seven and a half years - longer than any relationship I've ever had. And even though he drives me insane some (many) days, we still laugh a lot, we still talk a lot and in spite of the vast difference in our age, I think we're doing ok.

This post is part of Flaunt It Friday. Go check it out; participate in it, even.


meanderings said...

What a great story! I'm still smiling!!

About the site - I access your blog through Bloglines. If I click on the topic - it's slow - going through feedburner. If I click on the blog name, it's speedier than it's been in months AND has not shut down IE, which it's frequently done each day. But I love reading your stuff so I keep clicking.

Jess said...

Oh I love that story!

And he's caw-ute!

(That's how R says it, anyway...)

And your site didn't freeze my computer this time! Whee!

Lara said...

ha! i've always wondered what TCBIM stood for... :)

Mamma Sarah said...

great story and thanks for letting us know what tcbim stands for. :-D

Anonymous said...

I've always wondered about TCBIM too!

That's a great story - maybe there is hope for me yet - better get in a chat room more often!

And no freezing here this time either!

If not a mother... said...

I often wondered how you two met. So, that means he's younger than ME?

One of these days, I'll have to tell our own 'net meeting story. Except we were both young ;).

I don't know if I've mentioned that all this time. Now you know if you didn't know.

SUEB0B said...

Wow! That is a crazy fun story! I am so happy it worked out for you.

Anonymous said...

Love it! That is a great story. Another internet romance. Perfect!

I am so glad that you found love! Again, tearing up here!

Thanks for sharing, Major. And by the way... TCBIM is a hottie!

Thanks for participating.

Candi said...

Ahhh....internet love!! That's great!! And another June 2000 wedding! I met my husband online and married in June 2000 as well!!

LJ said...

awwwww now i want to fall in love! how sweet!
age does not matter! you give a girl like me *cough* 34* cough* hope.

Amy said...

I love stories like this. It goes to show the strength of relationships that start in chat rooms.

Very cute picture too.

kittenpie said...

Oh!I always slightly wondered why TCIBM. Now I know.

Penny said...

:) Lovely story :)

Christina said...

Awww...what a great story! It's so sweet to hear about love found on the internet. Without it, you would have never met.

mamatulip said...

Add me to the list of those who have wondered what TCBIM stood for.

I won't admit to how many hours I've sat here trying to figure it out.

lattemommy said...

Great story! This is my first time reading your blog, but I'll be back again. By the way - hope your tooth is feeling better. I've had dry socket before (when I had my wisdom teeth extracted) and it hurt like a son of a bitch.

Anonymous said...

Ha! Another reason I relate to you! I met my husband over the phone. Long story, I'll tell it to you if you want it. But electronic media bringing people together had a weird stigma back then that it doesn't now, so I'm less embarrassed than I used to be.

I like stories like that. It makes it hard not to believe in fate.


sandy shoes said...

Ah, *that's* why "TCBIM."

That's a great story.

Angewl said...

You know I always thought that stood for 'That Canadian Bastard I Married'. (oops.....)

Thats such a great story.

Thank goodness for the laughs. I don't know what I would do without those around here.

Wendy said...

Another internet love story:) I think I was the only one in FIF who wasn't! A great story though!