Thursday, January 29, 2009
The Help by Kathryn Stockett. It's fantastic.
Also, The Sins of the Wolf by Anne Perry because I love her mysteries.
I got a $100 gift card to Barnes & Noble from my son, so I have a stack to work thru, but I'm always up for hearing about what the rest of teh internets are reading.
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
First they played this:
Then some of this:
So I was grooving along in the front seat, humming and whistling and just generally
Obviously I'm failing at their musical education. My kids are fixated on one band and one band only.
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Monday, January 19, 2009
Mostly what I want is for her to think it's not a big deal, that by the time she's old enough to understand politics, a black man being inaugurated will seem commonplace. That anyone, literally anyone, can be President - man, woman, black, white, Hispanic, Asian, green, whatever. That this will be the new normal.
I am giddy about tomorrow. I know that Obama is going to have a very tough road ahead of him, that this country is well and truly fucked in so many ways and that he can't do it all, but in spite of all of this, I still have hope, still have faith that things will change for the better now, that things will improve and that we can recover as a country, as one country, and hopefully as a country that isn't so radically divided politically.
I remember when Michelle Obama was slammed for making a speech when she said she was finally proud to be an American. Today, on the eve of this historic event, I'm feeling the same way. I'm feeling proud of this country. But mostly I'm feeling a hope that I haven't felt in years, hope instead of disgust, hope instead of despair. I feel hope. And that feels wonderful.
Thursday, January 15, 2009
I got the girls up and dressed and out the door to school. The house was cold - 50F - but I figured it wouldn't take long to warm up once I got the fuel. Dropped the girls off and The Bug and I went to the bank. On the way home, The Bug started complaining about being hungry, so I stopped at the house to get her something to eat.
Since they don't plow my road worth a damn, there's a five inch layer of ice and snow built up and as I was pulling into my driveway, I skidded into the snowbank with a big crunch. Fuuuu-huh-huh-huh-huck.
Upon stepping out of the car, I noticed a trail of green. Dammit. I thought I'd either ripped the hose off or damaged the antifreeze reservoir. When I saw exactly how much green, I figured it was the reservoir. I rushed The Bug into the house and phoned TCBIM to tell him he had to come home and pick Boo up from preschool and oh, by the way, fix the car. As I was talking to him, I looked out the window and noticed that my front bumper was smashed all to hell. Great. Just great.
He attempts to crawl under the car but it's too low to the ground. However, he thinks I punched a hole in the radiator and maybe damaged the compressor.
So, the car has been towed to the repair shop, which is just down the road, thankfully. It's probably going to cost $700 to get fixed which, in the greater scheme of things, isn't a huge sum of money, but still. We are living paycheck to paycheck and money is very tight around here and this throws a real wrench (arf!) into things.
I need a Mulligan on today, please and thank you.
Sadly, my children are not of this mindset, try though I might.
The Bug wakes up very early every morning. 6 a.m. is sleeping in for her. Most mornings, she wants to get up, go downstairs and "have beffast, mama, time for beffast." Bleary-eyed, I follow her toddling little steps down the stairs and get her some beffast.
But some mornings, like this one, I manage to convince her to climb into bed with me. If it's still dark out and she doesn't hear That Canadian Boy I Married rummaging around, she can be convinced to lay in bed with me, snuggling.
So this morning we snuggled. She fitted herself into the crook of my arm but she was soon wiggling and rustling around and finally told me that she wanted to lie on my tummy. She does this sometimes - lays herself out on top of me, one arm crooked so she can suck her thumb, the other twirling her hair. She fits her head under my chin, snooks herself into place and we doze, me loving the feel of the weight of her across my body, rubbing her back, and murmuring soft reassurances.
Finally she was done. Usually she whips the covers off and clambers out of bed but this morning was different. This morning she lifted her head, and even in my dozy state, I felt her moving, felt her head come up. I opened my eyes and she was smiling at me and very softly, she reached up and patted my cheeks and said "Goo' mornin', mama. You want to get up now?" And then she gave me a little kiss, patted my face again and slid away and off the bed.
I know these days are fleeting, that soon she won't want to snuggle, won't want mama's arms around her, won't need to have me near her all the time. And part of me looks forward to that. But part of me will miss this, miss these hugs and kisses and pats on the face.
As much as I complain about how difficult it is to parent two toddlers, this, these moments, are what make it all worthwhile.
Monday, January 12, 2009
But lately, I'm starting to feel positively invisible. I'm in the process of losing weight and thus far, am down 23.4 lbs. That, in my book, is not chump change. I haven't been ballyhooing it around because I've been down this road before and I don't want other people dwelling on it, but dammit, that's a nice amount of weight to lose. And no one has noticed. The other night, I demonstrated for my husband how I could now remove my jeans without undoing them and his comment? "Huh. Neat." That's it. No one at work has noticed, neither of my parents have noticed and only one friend has said anything to me about it (thank you, T, you made my night). I think I'm officially nonplussed.
This, of course, sends me into a tailspin of "Jesus, I must be huge if 23 lbs isn't even showing." Then I head right for the biscotti I have hiding in the back of the cupboard.
In an effort to outwit the grey hair that is
I'm seriously thinking of piercing my nose, just to see if they'll spot that one.
And apparently it's delurk day. So if you read but never comment, please feel free to leave one. It'll make me feel less invisible.
Sunday, January 11, 2009
So I don't write much. I don't write here, I don't write at the diabetes blog I get paid to write, I just don't say anything.
And I'm not sure why.
I know a lot of it is the depression. It's kicking my ass. I'm in therapy and it does help, but only for a little while, maybe a day, if I'm lucky. I know going back on antidepressants will help a lot, but at the moment, we don't have health insurance and I can't afford the massive amount of money that Cymbalta runs every month. Even with health insurance, it was still $45 a month. Without health insurance, well, I have no idea, since CVS doesn't seem to list the cost of their medications online. I'm sure it's a lot of money. More than I can afford right now.
So I don't write. My fingers stumble on the keyboard when I open the Blogger thingamahoojy. I have no fucking clue what to say, or even if I have anything to say. And it's depressing. I love to write. I love reading the written word, I love playing with the words when I'm the one writing them, to move them around on the page until they convey exactly what I want them to, and this utter inability I have to write right now is really pissing me off. I feel like I've been deserted and I'm really angry about it.
That's why I don't write much here anymore. I don't like what I have to say, I've convinced myself that no one wants to read the blitherings that I can come up with, so I say nothing. Things happen here - nothing dramatic, nothing earth-shattering, but they're funny or intersting or just plain what-the-fuckedness - but I can't seem to get the words onto the screen in any kind of sensible order.
This is one of the many reasons I hate depression. It's robbing me of the things I love. Reading, writing, talking with friends. I just can't summon the interest. There's no spark there. I hate it. I hate being wordless, although I've managed to write paragraphs about said wordlessness. Whatever. It's all blathering. All mouth, no trousers.
I'm not looking for a vast audience on this blog. I stopped deluding myself that I could be a big blogger a long, long time ago. I do this for me, really, to scoop the crap out of my head and give it somewhere else to reside for a while. But I can't even seem to do that any more. It's the cruelest cut thus far in this epic war I seem to be waging against myself.
Friday, January 09, 2009
What are the ROFLs?
Well, cruise on over to Oh, The Joys or Chicky Chicky Baby for more information and to see a list of this month's winners.
Sunday, January 04, 2009
Today, a woman at work told me to shut up. She was trying to redeem a gift card issued by the mall and it wouldn't work. She called the company that issued the card and came back to me to tell me what they'd said. When I said "Right, ok, I get it," in the middle of her sentence, she said "Would you shut up and listen to me?" I was interrupting her, I suppose, but mostly I was agreeing with her and indicating that I understood what she wanted. Shut up was a bit unnecessary. She bitched and moaned because I couldn't do anything to fix her card. I felt like saying "Lady, we didn't issue the fucking card, I CAN'T do anything about it, so take your spray-tanned, fake-nailed, snot-nosed self out of my face." But I didn't.
Most of the time, people at work are just irritating, but when they do things like that, or when they throw their money at me or throw their purchases at me or talk on the fucking PHONE instead of paying for their stuff, I have all I can do to not start screaming obscenities at them. I turn my head and roll my eyes. A lot.
I try my best to be helpful at work. I answer questions for people who interrupt me when I'm dealing with another customer, I point people in the right direction when they're looking for a certain item or department, I give my opinion on things when they ask, I even smile (and I am not a smiling kind of person). Most of the time, people are grateful and friendly and nice. But there are always some who think that because I work in retail, I must be dumber than a box of rocks and don't deserve to be treated with even a modicum of respect or decency. Those people ruin it for me.
I think I'd be better suited at being a hermit. Cranky misanthrope seems to be my ideal right now. I'm good at it. I rock the snarky aside and the biting comment. But that doesn't really fly when you work retail and somehow I don't see that being a real selling point on a resume.
So for now, I'm going to practice my smiling and attempt to fix this hole I've bitten in my tongue.
Thursday, January 01, 2009
I've seen this floating around on several blogs and thought I'd swipe it.
1. What did you do in 2008 that you’d never done before?
Started a regular exercise regimen that I kept up for 8 whole months.
2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I don't usually make resolutions beyond the normal Do Better one.
3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
My stepbrother and his wife had a little boy in November.
4. Did anyone close to you die?
5. What countries did you visit?
6. What would you like to have in 2009 that you lacked in 2008?
I'd like to have less depression and a more stable economic situation.
7. What dates from 2008 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
The election. It still gives me chills.
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Losing 20 lbs and swimming a mile 3 times a week.
9. What was your biggest failure?
Is depression a failure? Because it's completely derailed my life this past year.
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Just the fucking depression thing.
11. What was the best thing you bought?
New bras. I wish I was kidding, but since I'd been wearing nursing bras since 2004, it was pretty damned nice to get new ones.
13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
Mine. And a good 95% of the politicians and pundits.
14. Where did most of your money go?
Rent, medications and utilities. Fun stuff, no?
15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
16. What song will always remind you of 2008?
Soul Butter. I mean All These Things That I've Done. It's been on endless repeat here at Casa Bedhead
17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
a) happier or sadder?
b) thinner or fatter?
c) richer or poorer?
We're making the same amount of money but it feels like we're poorer.
18. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Played with my kids.
19. What do you wish you’d done less of?
20. How did you spend Christmas?
At home and then at my mother's.
21. Did you fall in love in 2008?
22. What was your favorite TV program?
Countdown With Keith Olbermann
23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
24. What was the best book you read?
It's a tie between Water For Elephants and Twilight. (hangs head in shame)
25. What was your greatest musical discovery?
My rediscovery of all things Springsteen. And The Killers. I do love a man in eyeliner....
26. What did you want and get?
I wanted The French Laundry cookbook and my MIL delivered. So, so awesome.
27. What did you want and not get?
Time to myself.
29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
My mother took me to lunch. And I'm the answer to life, the universe and everything.
30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Less with the fucked up financial situation would have been nice.
31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2008?
32. What kept you sane?
Books. And the time to read them.
33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
34. What political issue stirred you the most?
The entire election process had me in a lather for most of the year.
35. Who did you miss?
36. Who was the best new person you met?
I don't play favourites.
37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2008.
That children and husbands are messy. And that I'm stronger than I think. I think.
38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
It's a tossup between:
Things been a little tight
But I know they're gonna turn my way.
I am so much older than I can take
And my affection, well it comes and goes