Thursday, February 16, 2006

A Series of Unfortunate Events

Ok, the bad luck gods have shit on me enough. My karma is in the toilet right now and I'm t-h-i-s close to losing my fucking mind.

First, there was the whole debacle with TCBIM and the online hoochie.

Then, there was the stress of trying to buy a house.

Also, being pregnant and nervous about that.

But now? Enough is enough.

TCBIM, like an idiot, gave his notice at his job even though he wasn't 100% sure that he had the job he'd interviewed for or that we definitely had the house. And guess what? He DIDN'T have the job. To top it off, his boss fired him when he gave his notice. Not only did he fire him, but he accused TCBIM of stealing supplies. Each time he's spoken to his former boss about this, the amount has gone up. First it was $2,000, then $5,000 and now it's up to $7,000. Oh, and he's insisting that TCBIM admit that he did this (even though he didn't) and pay him back the money. Even if TCBIM agreed to do this, the ex-boss is still going to inform everyone in the industry that TCBIM is a theif. So, we have a lawyer involved in this. Due to the shoddy bookkeeping practices of this company, TCBIM and his lawyer are fairly sure that they have a good case, but still. It's more than a little stressful. And the ex-boss has already made one phone call, that we know of, smearing his name.

Then, my grandmother died. Not totally unexpected, given her age and state of health, but still, it's sad and kind of stressful.

We're in the middle of signing the loan stuff and purchase and sale agreement on the house. First house, lots of stress and now that TCBIM has no job, I'm wondering how we're going to pay the whopping mortgage we're going to have, but whatever. I'll worry about that tomorrow.

And now? Now my eldest, Alex, is up at the doctor's office with his dad, having chest pains and dizziness for the second day in a row. Yesterday he was taken out of the . Oh, and did I mention that we have no insurance because TCBIM lost his job? And that while I can pick it up at my work, it won't be effective until March 1? I don't think he can be denied COBRA, but we don't know yet. So we may have this insurance fight on our hands for a while. Fan-fucking-tastic.

I really need a break. A long, stress-free break. Preferably on a warm, quiet beach with a big stack of mindless novels and a gorgeous cabana boy to bring me virgin daquiris and give me massages as needed. Right there. Under that palm tree.


Jamie said...


You just don't need this stress - especially with you being pregnant.


Shannon said...

Awe sweetie. When it rains it pours. And then it stops and the sun starts shining. Hang in there.

I'm praying your crappy luck runs out super fast.

If not a mother... said...

I hope things start turning around really really soon.

Jess said...

Forget the food pyramid, hon. You need CHOCOLATE.

Let me know how Alex is, okay?

Have your lawyer threaten to sue for slander - that ought to shut jag-off up.

I'm so sorry, Julia.

Anonymous said...

Yikes. I'm so sorry. Hope your son is fine, and you can fight the ins co later!!!

Penny Ratzlaff said...

Oh, Julia. Sometimes life just sucks. I hope things turn around soon.

I hope Alex is OK. Please let us know how he is now.

Anonymous said...

Good lord, honey. What a freaking mess.

As someone who is just emerging from six months of stupidity-induced insurance hell (caused by the other so-called adult in this house), I know exactly how crazy that can make you.

Hang in there. Hope Alex is all right.

Sandra Miller said...


Hang on. It can only get better, right?

Well, it damn well better-- cause lady you are due.

Angewl said...


I am so sorry.
I hope Alex is ok!

Ellen said...

BIG ((((HUGS)))) JULIA. I hope Alex will be ok.

It's time for things to improve for you. I have an amazing "metaphysical" therapist who would tell you to turn away from the black energy and go to the white energy. You can turn things around. You have the power.

In the mean time, shall I book you a hotel room in Boca Raton, Florida. Here's the beach 10 miles east of my house. At least you can go to the cyberbeach

Major Bedhead said...

Ellen - yes please.

Alex is fine. They think it's either strained muscles or growing pains. He's on heavy duty ibuprofen and if it doesn't go away in 4 - 5 days, he's to go back.

I'm leaving work early today and going shopping for about 5 minutes then I'm sitting in a bookshop until my grandmother's memorial service. Work can go suck eggs.

bethany said...

<3 we all love you Julia ... hang in there - it has to get better sometime ...

tell olivia i said hi.

(glad alex is ok!)

Wil said...

We all love ya! So at least there are about 2 million good things in your life (the US T-1 diabetic population!) The rest of you don't mind me speaking for the group, do you?

Joke said...


Maybe the files at the Reincarnation Department were confused with someone else's? Like...Stalin?

Stay sane, will ya?


J said...

I am sorry you have this black cloud hang in there . thoughts are with you

Erica said...

Julia I'm so sorry to hear about all this... all at the same time... and all while you are pregnant. {{hugs}} I know it's probably the last platitude you want to hear but when I get dumped on like that - things have a way of working themselves out. I really hope the same happens for you.

Johnboy said...

Good grief!! For what it's worth, your post just placed you at the top of my "prayers and concerns" list.

This is undoubtedly a bad time, but it WILL get better.

All the best,

Anonymous said...

When it rains it pours! Things will get better but you may have to make it happen. You have to make it known that you are not happy about carrying the full load. The other "adult" in the house should not leave the burden on you and should pull his weight. He may be the most wonderful man in the world but it seems to me you don't need yet another child right now. ANY job is better than no job. I would tell him since he prematurely jumped the gun, to go out and get a job, even if it is not the best job, and once he has the job, keep looking until he finds something that is up to his standards. Oh, and housework and childcare? Those should be shared duties. Now I realize that you can't MAKE them do any of this!..... LOL. But you can influence him.