tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post3872486255383954183..comments2023-08-01T09:59:56.087-04:00Comments on Major Bedhead: The Fine Line Between Self-Control and Self-AbuseMajor Bedheadhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17669161302510096751noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-55181035419257752072008-01-21T23:21:00.000-05:002008-01-21T23:21:00.000-05:00I've known some kids that did really well in Alate...I've known some kids that did really well in Alateen. Better than Al-Anon for them since it's kids supporting kids. I'd suggest that you start attending Al-Anon. It will help you help O. They should also have good advice about Alateen or other age appropriate support groups in your area.Zazzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11801135411913940539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-20245189041909104912008-01-21T19:34:00.000-05:002008-01-21T19:34:00.000-05:00Maybe Al-Anon would be a good idea for O.From expe...Maybe Al-Anon would be a good idea for O.<BR/>From experience, I know how hard it is to be mad at someone who is half of you. There are so many similarities between O's dad and mine.<BR/>When my parent's split because of his affair, he made my mom tell me. Next time I saw him, he says, "I know your mom told you but I don't want to talk about it." So we didn't, but he doesn't understand why I don't like his current wife. Go figure!The daughter he is raising now is 12 and wears a size 24W - I can't even guess what that is in pounds.<BR/><BR/>Anyway - some men are stupid! Keep letting O vent to you and do your best to stay impartial even when you know how stupid her father is being.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-68107933346765794992008-01-21T18:48:00.000-05:002008-01-21T18:48:00.000-05:00I am so sorry for you. I hear ya about the effects...I am so sorry for you. I hear ya about the effects of alcoholism... not fun or good. <BR/><BR/>Maybe a program like Al-Anon would help O to better understand the disease and to hear from someone else other than mom that she is not the problem. It might give her a forum to express her feelings and hear others do the same.<BR/><BR/>Hugs to you both, especially that poor darling girl. <BR/><BR/>SOME MEN SUCK!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-78518199722166768682008-01-21T18:19:00.000-05:002008-01-21T18:19:00.000-05:00{{{hugs}}} I understand - although my ex was a dru...{{{hugs}}} <BR/><BR/>I understand - although my ex was a drug-addict. Honesty will help Olivia, and it sounds like you're doing just that....she'll get the love and respect she needs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-55005467791648497392008-01-21T11:54:00.000-05:002008-01-21T11:54:00.000-05:00Alcoholism is rampant in my family - and for years...Alcoholism is rampant in my family - and for years, hidden. Your willingness to talk with Olivia about it will help her.meanderingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03217152983030885746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-5001388306263658152008-01-21T11:41:00.000-05:002008-01-21T11:41:00.000-05:00Big hugs to you both! The whole situation is sad. ...Big hugs to you both! The whole situation is sad. I know alcoholism. I have a near and dear(ha!) relative who is an alcoholic but he won't admit it. I can understand partly about the situation. Any advice I can offer you is perhaps look up some books on alcoholism for O to read so she can understand as best she can. Heck I don't even understand why people do things sometimes. I think surrounding her with the love and support is the best thing you can do for her. She won't be fucked up with you in her life!LJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09886347579490073430noreply@blogger.com