tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post114061724417918512..comments2023-08-01T09:59:56.087-04:00Comments on Major Bedhead: Can't live with 'em, can't sell 'em for science experimentsMajor Bedheadhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17669161302510096751noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-1140670855215820932006-02-23T00:00:00.000-05:002006-02-23T00:00:00.000-05:00Having no husband and no children (and no patience...Having no husband and no children (and no patience) myself, I am hardly in a position to offer up advice.<BR/><BR/>However.<BR/><BR/>His underwear not being completely dried when he puts them on may teach a lesson or two.Kerri.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11463843830570716380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-1140664683439802642006-02-22T22:18:00.000-05:002006-02-22T22:18:00.000-05:00julia, sounds like he is maybe just highly "prefer...julia, sounds like he is maybe just highly "preference-driven" then, and his preferences don't always align well with your wishes?<BR/><BR/>anyway, glad to give you a chuckle if only a chuckle in name!Johnboyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03616286847335034637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-1140653948565741712006-02-22T19:19:00.000-05:002006-02-22T19:19:00.000-05:00My obviously Y-chromosome-addled advice is: When y...My obviously Y-chromosome-addled advice is: When you are in a calm mode, explain what you expect from him, spelled out in condescending detail. If asked "why" you answer "Because I'm asking you nicely."<BR/><BR/>I can't speak for anyone else, but I do a lot better with spelled out instructions, the more detail, the better.<BR/><BR/>-J.Jokehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05672407657347134623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-1140641256875432862006-02-22T15:47:00.000-05:002006-02-22T15:47:00.000-05:00Julia - Hannah is almost 2.5. We got her a bed thi...Julia - Hannah is almost 2.5. We got her a bed thinking that would solve the sleep issues since she sleeps so much better in our bed. Nope. We've gotten to the point where she can fall asleep in her bed (after one of us lays on the floor for awhile) but she will wake up within a few hours and come into our bed. I can't do the cry it out thing. I think we tried it once and it broke my heart. <BR/><BR/>We borrowed my mom's aero bed to put in her room and the plan (when I'm far too big to share our queen with her, dh and the dog) is that when she wakes someone will go in and lay there and get her used to staying in her bed the entire night. <BR/><BR/>If we had room for a king we wouldn't be so eager to kick her out because she does sleep so much better with us. <BR/><BR/>How old is Isobel - do you think she'll be able to transition to a crib? We got a toddler bed from Ikea that was really cheap, low to the ground and very comfy :-)Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12650990160980367237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-1140636982649924132006-02-22T14:36:00.000-05:002006-02-22T14:36:00.000-05:00This sounds like something my husband would do - I...This sounds like something my husband would do - I'm still trying to figure out if he's really that dense, or if he's just being jerky .... nonetheless, I could relate to a certain degree .... minus the damp underwear :( Hope your day gets better - and I hope TCBYM starts helping you out in the mornings!Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08174978790549584487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-1140634713521256682006-02-22T13:58:00.000-05:002006-02-22T13:58:00.000-05:00Yeah, I'm the same way, Shannon. Especially when ...Yeah, I'm the same way, Shannon. Especially when I get a phone call asking me the carb counts for mozarella sticks and tuna on focaccia. Where is he? He decided to take Olivia out to lunch. You have NO JOB! What are you doing spending money on lunch at a restaurant??! Gobshite.Major Bedheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669161302510096751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-1140633528169235392006-02-22T13:38:00.000-05:002006-02-22T13:38:00.000-05:00Did the tone of my comment sound negative? ;PIt's ...Did the tone of my comment sound negative? ;P<BR/><BR/>It's hard for me to give men any kind of sympathy. I don't know why.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11082031887238694358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-1140632909824590582006-02-22T13:28:00.001-05:002006-02-22T13:28:00.001-05:00*snort* Don't hold back, Shannon, tell us how you...*snort* Don't hold back, Shannon, tell us how you really feel. :DMajor Bedheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669161302510096751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-1140632901117711842006-02-22T13:28:00.000-05:002006-02-22T13:28:00.000-05:00Jacob sleeps with us or comes in our room in the m...Jacob sleeps with us or comes in our room in the middle of the night screaming if he finds himself in his own bed.<BR/><BR/>I love Johnboy, but shit if that isn't a typical male solution he gave.<BR/><BR/>Bite my ass honest and calm communication. There's no time for that when you're running around like a chicken with its head cut off trying to get your pregnant self ready and the baby too!<BR/><BR/>I was depressed too for quite a while, but if I layed in bed all day, the kids would be starving and the house would be condemned due to the damage they'd inflict on it.<BR/><BR/>I love ya Johnboy ;)Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11082031887238694358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-1140632569840612472006-02-22T13:22:00.000-05:002006-02-22T13:22:00.000-05:00johnboy (it cracks me up to type that) - Depressio...johnboy (it cracks me up to type that) - Depression is not something that TCBIM can comprehend. He's the most well-adjusted, optimistic person I've ever met. He always thinks things will work out. At the moment, he thinks this is a small set-back and he will get a job by this weekend or the middle of next week, at the latest. Sometimes it drives me nuts that he can never even admit that bad things can and do happen, but I guess I do enough worrying for both of us. I'm being supportive, even though this post doesn't really sound that way, but he really is lazy when it comes to house and family stuff. Bone-assed lazy. Works like a demon at things he gets paid for, but ask him to pick up his dirty clothes and he can think of 30 other things he'd rather do. It's maddening. I do try to stay calm and to discuss these things rationally, but every so often, I just snap. I have a short fuse. <BR/><BR/>Erica - how old is Hannah? We're moving in a few weeks and I'm hoping to get Isobel into her own room then. She's got a gorgeous new crib that, I swear, she hasn't slept in once. Not once. Once she is asleep, she's a great sleeper, but it's getting her to go to sleep that's the problem.Major Bedheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669161302510096751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-1140630103546867932006-02-22T12:41:00.000-05:002006-02-22T12:41:00.000-05:00I'm having some deja vu... ;-) Minus the wet undie...I'm having some deja vu... ;-) Minus the wet undies of course!<BR/><BR/>And Hannah still sleeps with us too - I love it and hate it. But I'm just not ready to fight that battle yet -- sigh... She is a HORRIBLE sleeper, from day 1. But it's coming...Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12650990160980367237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17409854.post-1140626042566280132006-02-22T11:34:00.000-05:002006-02-22T11:34:00.000-05:00Clearly you need his help. Your life is hectic an...Clearly you need his help. Your life is hectic and complicated right now to say the least!<BR/><BR/>For what it's worth, let me give you a few guy thoughts. Given his situation, I would suspect that mild depression is not out of the realm of possibility.<BR/><BR/>Open, honest and calm communication may help, but all too often emotions get in the way of all that. If possible, try to approach these topics neutrally. (I can't tell you how!)<BR/><BR/>He's a guy, so he may need some extra ego support given the situation. I'm not suggesting a way to do, only that it may be a factor.<BR/><BR/>Good luck!Johnboyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03616286847335034637noreply@blogger.com